Miscarriage – Part 2

AFTER A MISCARRIAGE

Miscarriage is a loss as much as a full-term pregnancy where the baby is stillborn. Allow yourself to grieve the loss. Those who know ahead of time, when early signs of miscarriage is observed or during premature labor, will begin the process of grieving. This is called “anticipatory grief” and it assists you to prepare for the loss. Don’t feel bad if you have a sense of relief, the uncertainty is now over and you may feel relieved your baby’s ordeal is over.

Other people may not understand your sense of loss, unless they too have had a miscarriage. You may feel alone and isolated. Don’t keep to yourself as this can add to your feeling of doubt, and sense of self-blame.

Many people will expect you to ‘to be back to normal and may say things like ‘aren’t you over this yet?’ or ‘Buck up—no use crying over spilt milk!’ Because you are still grieving so intensely, these remarks can make you wonder if your feelings are silly or unjustified (41)”. Try to surround yourself with people who will listen and care, avoiding those people who are very insensitive.

If the baby miscarried late in the second trimester, you may have memories to grapple with. Such as, when you first heard you were pregnant, the ultrasound that showed you the baby is a boy or girl, and when you first felt the baby move. These types of things are important things to remember in the process of grieving.

You may wonder how long this process will take. It depends upon you and how well you work through the grieving process! Allow yourself the time to work through the shock, anger, denial, your memories, etc.

REFERENCES:

Davis, Deborah L. PhD. Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: surviving the death of your baby. (1994) Fulcrum.

Romm, Aviva Jill. The Natural Pregnancy Book: herbs, nutrition, and other holistic choices (2003) Celestial Arts

Miscarriage – Part 1

MISCARRIAGE

A miscarriage is when a pregnancy spontaneously ends. It usually occurs before the 28th week of gestation. Miscarriages occur in approximately 20% of all pregnancies in the United States.

Many women have a miscarriage early in a pregnancy, without even realizing it. The miscarriage just seems to be a “heavy” period. Teenage girls and middle age women are the most common age groups. Miscarriages are more common early on than after the first trimester.

Those women who tend to miscarry repeatedly, or those women who really desire a baby, the loss of a baby can be devastating. Because so many people do not discuss the loss of a baby through miscarriage women do not know what to expect or what to do.

Although painful to think about, and it sounds rather blunt, a miscarriage is nature’s way of preventing an unhealthy baby from being carried to term. It may seem hard to accept, but we should realize that our bodies have a wisdom of their own and prevention of a miscarriage will not be effective with an unhealthy baby.

Other causes for miscarriages include:

• Hormonal imbalances
• Cervical looseness ( called “incompetent cervix”, a medical term)
• Infections
• Nutritional deficiencies
PREVENTING A THREATENED MISCARRIAGE

The signs of a threatened miscarriage include spotting, bleeding, or cramping which may also include a backache. These symptoms may begin suddenly or develop slowly. They can last just a few hours, or may last for days. The spotting or bleeding may be all that occurs. Or the symptoms may be more severe and cause fear that the baby will be lost. A physical exam is not wise at this point as it may stimulate the uterus further. Chances are a woman will still have the symptoms of pregnancy (breast soreness or tenderness and nausea) after spotting or bleeding. Although not always a good idea, the use of the Doppler may help reassure that the pregnancy is still viable.

GENERAL RECOMMENDATIONS

• If You are having contractions or are bleeding / spotting, do get off your feet and rest. Get up only when you need to go to the bathroom.
• Avoid lifting heavy objects and abstain from sexual activity until all signs of a miscarriage have been gone for at least a week
• Warm (not hot) baths will release tension and anxiety, and bring relief to lower back pain.
• Take time, while resting off your feet, to connect with the baby and tell the baby you want him/ or her. Send your baby your love. This may or may not be helpful, but you will feel comforted and assured you are doing all that you can for the pregnancy. Let the baby know you want the baby but also reassure the baby that if he or she must go, you understand and give permission.
• If you are unsure about the pregnancy to begin with, this is a good time to come to terms with having or letting go of the baby.

DIETARY RECOMMENDATIONS

• To prevent a miscarriage, avoid all cold-natured and cold temperature foods. Cold has a downward moving, heavy force…causing an excess of downward flow in the pelvic area.
• It is better then, to eat warmer foods that are nourishing, such as soups. Also emphasis should be on whole grain stews, hot cereals, root vegetables, and dark greens until all symptoms have been gone at least for a week. For beverages: warm tea (preferably the pregnancy teas) and room temperature water should be consumed.
• Vitamin E is thought to assist placental attachment to the uterus…reducing the likelihood of spotting or a miscarriage. Take up to 800 IU of vitamin E for about three weeks. If you have a heart disease, do not exceed 50 IU per day without discussing the supplementation with your doctor.